Okay although KP offered excellent assistance my Courier-MTA still sucks.
I am now in search of....
A pretty easily installed/configured Mail server that will allow me to send email using my domain name ie firstname.lastname@example.org and also to allow for others (I host MUDS) to use email@example.com.
Since I am really STUPID please don't try to offer a program that takes a Master's degree to work.
The problem with Courier-MTA is I am stuck at that sh perftest1 1000 user-test blah blah...
After 3 hours on an athalon 900 I still had zero messages anywhere.
Perhaps since I have it installed if someone can get me over this hump I will keep it.